HARMONIOUS MARRIED LIFE

Blessing in Disguise

It is the fault of our own thinking that we consider somebody inferior and somebody else superior. If people realize this, their lives will become filled with gratitude.

A believing man should not be displeased with a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim)

THIS Hadith attributed to the Prophet and contained in the Sahih Muslim provides comprehensive advice with regard to marital relations. It says that a believing man should not be displeased with a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, she would have another characteristic that he would like.

It is a fact of life that nobody, possesses every conceivable virtue. This is how nature is: you may have some wonderful qualities, but you may lack some other good qualities. But it is a very common human tendency to see and focus more on what we think are the negative qualities in others. Very often, we ignore or are blind to their positive qualities. This is a devastating way to think, though. It is a sure recipe for ruining our relationships. If instead of thinking this way we focus on the positive qualities in others and ignore their negative qualities, our relations with them would automatically become harmonious. If this is applied to marital relations, every husband would come to think of his wife as the best possible life-partner, and vice versa.

God has not made anyone inferior or superior. The fact is that every one is unique as regards their creation. It is the fault of our own thinking that we consider somebody inferior and somebody else superior. If people realize this, their lives will become filled with gratitude. No longer will they complain or feel deprived. And they will be able to lead more meaningful lives.