20. Consulting Women

Hasan al-Basri, a well-known Tabii, narrated that he had seen more than seventy companions and heard from them. He mentioned that the Prophet of Islam (SAW) often sought advice and even consulted women. Sometimes, the Prophet of Islam (SAW) would accept their counsel. (Uyun al-Akhbar by Ibn Qutaybah, Vol. 1, Page 82)

The example of the Prophet of Islam (SAW) in this matter is not limited in scope. It is broad and applies to all aspects of life. Appointing someone as a counsellor is a sign of respect and honour for that person. In this context, appointing a woman as a counsellor indicates that her education, judgement, and experience are acknowledged and valued.

Becoming capable of providing advice is an essential part of learning to receive counsel. From a social perspective, no one—whether a woman or a man—can be a true advisor by nature alone. Proper education and training are necessary to develop this ability.

Seen through this principle, the Prophet’s (SAW) example presents a comprehensive vision of society. It portrays a community where women are given access to education and opportunities to become active, constructive members. They should be able to offer sound advice, contribute meaningfully to discussions, and play a vital role in decision-making.

Both men and women are invaluable gifts of nature to one another. Each partner is the best companion of the other, provided they understand each other’s natures and treat one another accordingly. Men are naturally more egoistic, while women are naturally more emotional. These differences can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. However, if both partners recognize these differences and consciously prevent them from causing conflict, they can benefit greatly from one another.

It is impossible for either side to completely eliminate these natural differences. Both must learn to manage these differences and, in doing so, build a successful shared life.