SOCIAL ETIQUETTE

The Quran outlines principles of etiquette in gatherings:

“Believers, if you are told to make room for one another in your assemblies, then do so, and God will make room for you. And if you are told to rise up, do so: God will raise in rank those of you who believe and those who have been given knowledge. He is fully aware of all that you do.” (58:11)

In a gathering, one is not alone—others are present as well. If everyone thinks only of themselves, it creates discomfort for others. That is why this verse instructs believers to be thoughtful and considerate.

For example:

•     If space is limited, make room for others or share your seat.

•     If someone of importance enters, offer them a place.

•     When asked to leave, do so promptly—don’t make excuses to stay longer.

While the immediate context of the verse refers to manners in assemblies, its guidance applies to all areas of social life.

For society to function smoothly, two qualities are essential:

1.  Flexibility

2.  The ability to let things go without turning small matters into issues of ego or prestige

Just as a gathering runs well when people accommodate each other, society functions best when there is a spirit of generosity and willingness to step aside when needed.

Sometimes, in a meeting, one person may need to give up their seat for someone else. In broader life, this spirit is also necessary—at times, responsibility must be handed over to someone more capable, and others should step back gracefully.

If someone in an organization makes a decision for the common good, others should accept it. They should not turn it into a personal matter or disrupt unity by creating internal conflict.