RESPONDING WITH
WHAT IS BETTER

“Good and evil deeds are not equal. Repel evil with what is better; then you will see that one who was once your enemy has become your dearest friend” (41:34)

If someone behaves with hostility towards you and you respond by flaring up and condemning them, it will only provoke them further. Their enmity will intensify. Your reaction would be like pouring oil on fire. A situation that began as unpleasant might turn into something far worse—with bitter consequences for you.

On the contrary, if you show restraint or respond with gentleness and good conduct, it will be like pouring water on fire. Your approach will psychologically defeat your adversary. Their conscience will awaken, and they will begin to feel inward shame. Instead of continuing their hostility, they may start thinking about how to make amends.

Reacting with anger to provocation or showing a negative response might provide temporary emotional release, but it yields no real benefit. It is the behaviour of an unwise person to explode at every unpleasant situation. The wise person is one who thinks about the consequences before acting—someone who makes decisions based on long-term outcomes, not fleeting emotions.

Every human being is, by nature, a reflection of the same human essence. Even someone who seems to be your enemy is still a human being like you. Look beyond their faults and treat them kindly. Then you will see that the very person you considered your enemy becomes your close friend.